So…
People want to know…
how I worked through being sober…
and how I got into Eastern philosophies…
and, I guess, life coaching.
That feels more like it—
not so much golf coaching.
But life coaching to me…
is just sharing the skills
that I learned from my down and out moments.
From being in jail,
fearing I was gonna lose my kid…
dealing with self-doubt my whole life…
to now—
a positive mental state,
a clear vision.
How did I get there?
Very slow progress.
For me,
it started by figuring out—
who do I want to be?
What type of father?
What type of person?
One way to do that
is to find people you admire,
watch their traits,
see how they act,
and ask yourself:
“Do I want to act like that?”
That could be people online,
in real life—
anybody.
Also—
know your personality.
What core values resonate with you?
I love honesty.
Authenticity.
I want to be the true me—
all the way through.
Opening up with my story
makes me want to share it with my kids.
So they know.
Not hiding.
Not hiding from the pain I had.
And now with Golf Ball Wisdom,
I’m trying to teach others from that pain.
So when you start doing that—
you start noticing it.
I came to the realization,
listening to Tony Robbins,
motivational speakers,
self-help books like:
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F,
You Are a Badass by Jen Sincero,
Braving the Wilderness by Brené Brown…
Eric Thomas…
all kinds of motivational stuff I’d put in my ears.
Also, Noah Levine,
Dharma Punx—
more Eastern philosophy.
Buddhism.
Meditation.
My type of meditation?
Just sitting,
focusing on what people are saying,
working on my breathing.
Then making affirmations
of how I wanted to act.
Telling myself:
You can listen to it…
but if you want to be better—
then be better.
Act better.
Act like the people you want to be.
The more I put that stuff in my ears,
the more I watched videos on it,
and took out the extra noise.
I don’t watch a lot of TV.
I watch movies, documentaries…
but not just entertainment.
I’m trying to learn—
all the time.
And the more I put into my brain,
the more it helped me become who I want to be.
The music I listen to,
the conversations I try to have,
the movies I watch—
everything.
That helped me start being more clear with my intent.
I tried a vision board—
not that artsy guy,
but I worked on having a clear picture
of what I wanted.
For me,
I wanted to be an ever-present father.
That probably came
from the fear I wasn’t going to be able to be that.
Not that my fathers weren’t around—
but they were emotionally not around.
I’m trying to change that.
It’s a struggle…
because you are what you learned.
But that clarity helped.
It was one more step.
And then I acted daily on it.
I journaled a lot.
Wrote down the emotions I felt each day.
Looked back at them.
And I noticed—
there was a lot of complaining.
I was blaming others,
blaming situations,
blaming this or that…
But the more I wrote,
the more I took self-accountability.
I realized:
I’m responsible for my life.
I’m responsible for how I act.
Not for how others act.
So that’s it.
I’m closing up the shop,
waiting for the last cards.
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Hit us up at Golf Ball Wisdom
if you think we can help you.
If you know a teen or man that’s struggling,
I’ve got programs on there.
Leave me a comment—
what do you think about it?
Anyway,
hope everyone’s doing well.
Let’s Focus. Grow. Thrive.
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