YOU are the prize, not him – reacting to simone biles husband “i’m the prize”

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In this episode, Elle reacts to an interview with Simone Biles’ husband, raising important points about self-esteem and self-worth in relationships. She emphasizes the importance of not diminishing oneself for a partner’s ego and the dangers of being in a relationship where one feels they constantly have to prove their worth. Elle also discusses the issue of dating when you are a high-achieving woman and shares some key lessons, including never chasing a man, dating someone who genuinely appreciates you, and avoiding partners who try to humble you. Tune in for an engaging discussion on maintaining self-esteem in relationships and recognizing your worth.

The problem we have as of now today in this day and age is that women are not entitled enough women are not full of themselves enough Simone biles is out here decorated gold medalist Olympian has gymnastics moves named after her her name will live in perpetuity she is a

Household name and she’s minimizing herself to soothe the ego of her benchwarmer husband and I think that’s why we’re so disappointed by this the women who are supposed to be full of themselves because of their larger than life achievements the women who are supposed to to be entitled because they

Won all the titles if they still minimize themselves dim their light make themselves smaller to make a man feel large and in charge what hope do we normal folk have okay we don’t stand a chance that’s the false belief okay that’s what the Mr Simone bils still

Don’t know his name I am the prize controversy is making a lot of women feel but it’s false okay what the situation teaches us is your external achievements are no replacement for a healthy self-esteem if Simone biles be being the literal prize in the gymnastics world still doesn’t feel like

The prize I need you to see that as a lesson and not needing any form of external validation to validate the fact that you are the prize okay simply by existing as a woman you are the prize you don’t need to work for it you don’t

Need to prove it to anyone you don’t need to audition to be the prize you just are you exist and you’re the prize okay you are the prize and you need to start acting like it hey bestie welcome to the spoiled girly support group podcast where we talk about how to get

That bag while also securing your own bag I’m your host L and let’s get into it on today’s episode we are talking about how you should never shoot your shot with a man and make him feel like he’s the prize because he’s not the prize you are the prize today we are

Talking about Mr Simone B still don’t know his name saying that he is the prize on a podcast interview but before we get into it I need you to hit the like subscribe and the notification Bell so you never miss a spoiled girly episode with that being said let’s get

Into it how in the hell did you pull Simone B I love this football talk I got to get I’m over here rubbing my knees hey Chen I wanted to tell he talking about being looked over now when the right people look at you okay I’ve

Seen this video over and over again and it’s like when you watch your favorite movie like the more you watch it the more you unpack the layers and I’m going to spoil it for you now so you can appreciate the layers as they come up

These men are on the Simone B side okay not Mr Simone biles the Simone biles and they are on her side even when she’s not on her own side Mr calabasa shirt here brings up how Mr Simone biles talks about being looked over and how it feels

Good when the right person looks at you aka the Simone biles so for background Mr Simone biles is a football player in the NFL who apparently went undrafted and was a benchwarmer when he did get drafted I mean no doubt he’s probably a good athlete but relative to the success

Simone has achieved in her career there’s no comparison so when Mr calabasa shirt says that they’re talking about being looked over and then being looked at by the right person he’s probably referring to finally Mr Simone biles gets picked okay so I really like watching it over and over again cuz you

Could really see the layers let’s keep watching know you know what I’m saying had you do that bro man it’s you really how she pull me man that’s the question oh lord it’s giving princess like it’s not about how I pulled her it’s about how she pulled me I can’t let’s keep

Watching Jesus now you with Freddy now it’s back listen I’mma tell you I’mma tell you organic story man so I’m uh I’m about I just got to Houston I probably have been to Houston seven months um I was single at the time you know she

Messaged me on the app like hey you know what I mean and I’m man that’s a man this got to be fake like I don’t know just I didn’t know who she was at the time but like the first thing that I saw was that she just had a

Bunch of followers so in my mind I’m like okay she got to be good the receipts determined that to be a lie since Mr Simone biles tweeted about gymnastics in 2012 let’s keep watching I promise you I’m I’m a real life story when she won

The Olympics I was in college I was in college I was in college I love that guy he knew that this guy was lying and he’s like I can’t I can’t we didn’t have NBC we didn’t have Olympics chanels and we’re in Camp we’re in Camp Late Late

Late July early August so I’m not paying attention to you know so I never would have had a moment to where I would have watched like me and this guy Jon I’m G let you finish your story man continue Mr golf hoodie here is trying so hard not to embarrass this guy like

His BS meter has been tripped it is at Max Capacity and he’s having none of it he’s my favorite one on this podcast because he will be doing this tactic of repeating whatever Mr Simone BS is saying just to show how ridiculous he’s being but over and over Mr Simone biles

Just agrees with him and like really feeds into it and it’s amazing to see like there’s this tactic of whenever people are kind of full on their BS you kind of just repeat their statements to them in plain language so that they would see how ridiculous they’re being

But it doesn’t work on Mr Simone biles because he really truly believes what he’s saying which is good for him but like I was saying man she she messaged me this is like a Tuesday and we we we do you see her face here like she’s smiling she really thinks it’s a cute

Little Love Story I mean it probably is but just the fact that he brings up that she’s the one who messaged him first first and emphasizing that she went to Great Lengths to chase him and make him feel like the prize like something about that just doesn’t sit right with me and

The fact that she’s sitting right next to him and smiling and sometimes I really think ignorance is bliss because she does think that it’s a good thing that he’s bringing this up the way he’s bringing it up she does think that it’s how it’s supposed to be like it’s an

Achievement like being with this guy is an achievement like she did that I knew what I wanted and I got it if she thinks it’s great I love it for her texting back and forth and then we hung out Friday man um we couldn’t do much happened everything was shut down so um

She came through down um down to Houston she lived in the suburbs so she had Drive about 45 minutes to me um then the rest is history man so like he really had to emphasize that she messaged him first she drove 45 minutes to see him

All throughout this video a lot of the girlies will say divorce babes divorce but the Simone biles is married to this man and I try not to get into it with married women because that’s between them their husband and God okay like marriage is sacred and I totally get

That that’s why it’s a very important decision that you’re going to make in your life so Simone really does look happy like look at her she does look happy here and what can you say you know like at the end of the day this is the media and it’s probably staged I hope

That she’s getting treated differently in real life but this isn’t really for Simone okay this whole video is not for the Simone biles this is for us right regular degular women trying to navigate the world and trying to learn from other people’s situations so that we can have better

Outcomes for ourselves so that we will not be with men who think that they’re the prize so that we will not be with men who emphasize to other people how much we chase them okay it’s not a good feeling especially if you’re a spoiled girly so this is not for Simone biles I

Hope she has her happily ever after and she does seem happy okay but for the unmarried girlies please please please please recognize the patterns so you don’t find yourself trapped in a pattern that you failed to recognize okay so that you’re not in a marriage or even

Just a relationship with a man who constantly humbles you diminishes you and relies on you minimizing yourself so that he can feel large so that he can feel like a man because it’s not your job to make a man feel like a man okay and any man who feels inferior to a

Woman’s so much that he requires that she diminish herself in relation to him that’s a lesser man to begin with okay that is not your friend that is not your partner it’s insecure behavior and we don’t Vibe with that so you was really the catch in I always say we the man the

Catch man I always say we the catch man yeah so every time they try to spell out how Mr Simone biles is being ridiculous he just leans into it incredible she really booked you she did though is what you saying I was fighting it I was

Fighting it I was F so in truth if I say this out loud was Jonathan Owens ain’t really want someone BS is what you saying at the time I’m not going to say that that what you saying I was CAU afraid I I was afraid to commit I’m like

Ah I’m man this my this my third year you know I’m trying to ah I’m like okay I don’t want to hear this man talk again let’s talk about the key lessons here number One never shoot your shot with a man and never chase a man man number two

Date only men for whom you are their type and number three avoid men who humble you I think the only thing that I’ve learned from the whole Simone biles husband situation is never shoot your shot with the man I don’t care if you think the man is Jesus reincarnated

Right in front of your face do not hit on him if he’s not hitting on you these men are out here with Simone biles one of the most successful people on on Earth she’s so lucky to be with me be for real like she should be getting the Taylor Swift treatment Sierra treatment

Rihanna treatment and instead she’s out here with Andrew number one listener sick sick and wrong let’s get into the comments the fact that he thought it was okay to talk about her like that this one thing I’m working on is speaking up when I don’t like how

Someone’s talking to me or about me or just flat out never talking to that person again or blocking them basically making them disappear from my experience of life because if my partner talked about me like that rescue me okay I need help a guy told me that if you have to make the

First move he doesn’t like you this is why I love good men the spoiled girly girl dads uncles Brothers they are men and they know how men think and they know what men do so it’s no surprise that women with a healthy father presence they tend tend to have higher

Standards than men do you know why the spoiled girlies are like this it’s because men taught us to be like this it’s giving father presence it’s giving fathered Behavior it is also why men who will make you suffer they tend to Target on purpose women with Father absence

Because without the presence of a man who has the entitlement of a man in your life you tend to not seek out the things that you are entitled to as a woman okay you tend to seek male validation in the wrong places in the wrong people and

Because you don’t know any better any crumb of attention and validation you think that that’s enough and that’s not true so if you have a history of Father absence whether it’s figuratively or literally watch this class and it’ll change your life at their minimum he could have been like we’re lucky to have

Each other or something he made sure to clarify no she’s actually beneath me true I saw something a while back that said relationships don’t work out if the guy doesn’t like or wants the girl more than she wants him I will forever ever stand by this that if you’re a woman the

Guy has to like and love you more than you like and love him because we’re lover girls we will fall hard anyway so we need to make sure that they fall harder okay and as the more disadvantaged party in heterosexual relationships biologically physically and financially it’s a no-brainer he

Needs to be more emotionally invested in you than you are in him it’s the spoiled girlly rule no further explanations if you are feeling stubborn and you want to prove me wrong listen to this I learned the hard way it is so true did it once

And he made sure to remind me that I was the one who pursued him never again I hate to say I told you so but I told you so the problem is we can be the best in the world but if we don’t see our own worth we allow the disrespect this is

Why I gas you up every class you have high inherent worth and value everyone’s trying to convince you that you don’t but you do people love to say be careful you’re influencing women to be entitled to be full of themselves blah blah blah let’s be real okay who is hurt when

Women are entitled who is hurt when women have high standards who is hurt when women are full of themselves men who want to take advantage of women that’s who women who lower their standards and don’t want to see other women getting what they are entitled to

That’s who if women are as entitled or as full of themselves as the haters paint them to be they’d be lonely but they’re not in fact our problem is that we’re not lonely enough we get into relationships with these men because we’re not entitled enough and we suffer

Okay that’s our problem we allow all these people to access us at our expense the problem we have as of now today in this day and age is that women are not entitled enough women are not full of themselves enough Simone biles is out here decorated gold medalist Olympian

Has gymnastics moves named after her her name will live in perpetuity she is a household name and she’s minimizing herself to soothe the ego of her benchwarmer husband and I think that’s why we’re so disappointed by this the women who are supposed to be full of themselves because of their larger than

Life achievements the women who are supposed to be entitled because they won all the titles if they still minimize themselves dim their light make themselves smaller to make a man feel large and in charge what hope do we normal folk have okay we don’t stand a chance that’s the false belief okay

That’s what the Mr Simone B still don’t know his name I am the prize controversy is making a lot of women feel but it’s false okay what the situation teaches us is your external achievements are no replacement for a healthy self-esteem if Simone biles being the literal prize in

The gymnastics world still doesn’t feel like the prize I need you to see that as a lesson and not needing any form of external validation to validate the fact that you are the prize okay simply by existing as a woman you are the prize you don’t need to work for it you don’t

Need to prove it to anyone you don’t need to audition to be the prize you just are you exist and you’re the prize okay you are the prize and you need to start acting like it as a recap never shoot your shot with a man and never

Chase a man okay if you have to spell it out for a man that you like him and he doesn’t feel the same way initially you will forever have to audition for his attention and validation because you already set him up to feel like he’s the prize okay as a woman you shouldn’t

Force anything okay it is your gift to receive the attention and validation of men not to audition for it okay and it’s so sad to see women who are in their auditioning energy even after getting married and it’s the worst thing because it’s exhausting and we already talked

About women who are stuck in their auditioning energy so watch this class you missed it it’s sad it is totally sad let’s move on to lesson number two date only men for whom you are their type you need to be your type’s type the thing that bothers me the most about that

Simone B’s husband’s interview isn’t the fact that she’s sitting right there next to him smiling giggling eating it up and it’s not the fact that he’s just like like I don’t know I didn’t really know her it’s the fact that the vibe that I get from that is

He’s saying she wasn’t really my type she wasn’t really my type she isn’t the typical girl that I could have gotten or you know would have gotten with but I gave her a chance therefore I am the catch there is no reason for a woman like Simone biles to be as so talented

And accomplished and as beautiful as she is to be with a man who speaks better like that unless he is reverse gold digging and just you know riding off for coat tails for for the name for the fame and everything else that comes with it the

Way he talks about her gives very much resentment oh I gave her a chance and look at where we are that’s what the interview gives let’s get into the comments I didn’t find her attractive or my type was absolutely in the fine print I absolutely swear by this you need to

Be your type’s type and more importantly you need to be your man’s type if you don’t look like any of his exes proceed with caution okay I would say it’s like an orange flag because especially as a girly who is a small percentage of the population of wherever you live if you

Are his first that type of girl okay I look like me if I’m dating a man who has never dated anyone who looks like me I’m not going to be your practice case Okay bye he probably feels like he said it looks wise it’s of treatment

Comes with that too so I’ve seen people make comments about how Mr Simone biles’s exes don’t look like the Simone biles and so he made an exception for her because she’s I don’t know the Simone biles so he made an exception for her you don’t want to be the person that

Made an exception for you because if he makes an exception for you you’re going to have to perform whatever it is that allowed him to make an exception for you you will find yourself having to perform for this man more than you would normally do women perform for men all

The time okay simply by existing women perform to be a woman is to perform okay but if a man made an exception for you because he’s not really attracted to you anyway but he made an exception you’re going to do more you’re going to do more

On top of what you’re normally going to do anyway it’s exhausting he will want you to prove your Worth to him for eternity he thinks he’s doing you a favor so obviously you have to return the favor over and over and over again okay it’s sad if she’s not his type he

Probably married her precisely because he knew who she was exactly that’s why like he made an exception for her because she’s the Simone biles I heard I’m not attracted to her but I gave her a chance because she has so many followers it’s so gross that he’s saying that while she’s literally

Sitting next to him okay let’s get into a hot take Simone barles is not his dream girl no man sitting next to the woman of his dreams speaks that way certainly not referring to himself as the catch many of you are in similar situations the man you’re with thinks

He’s the prize and doesn’t see you as his dream come true let me tell you what it’s like when you are a man’s dream girl we already talked about the nuances of being a dream girl in this class so before you get mad watch that class okay

I got a lot of no is complaining that oh they’re so centered on man being his dream girl we’re talked about that here okay no Nuance Nelly sit in front annoying I’m so done with people who are new new here like complaining about things we already talked about keep up

Back to the topic here’s is what being a healthy man’s dream girl looks like he will look at you like you hung the moon you will never feel like you have to be in your auditioning performing energy you don’t need to pick between the Love Languages you will receive all of them

You will never feel like he settled for you and he will show you every day how he is so lucky to have you and I hope you get to feel that at least once because once you feel that there is no going back okay you date a good man

There is no going back moving on lesson three avoid men who humble you we already talked about how men humbling you is a red flag so watch this class if you missed it so I have this new thing where I try to close every class with something positive so I think you’re

Going to appreciate this I’m a doctor I’m also happily married and as a high achieving woman I have some thoughts about the Simone biles husband Fiasco I am not comparing myself to an Olympian by any means I promise but it’s not uncommon for me on this app for people

To ask questions about how to make marriage and residency and medicine work and I’ll be honest I’ve hesitated to answer a lot of those questions because the answer is it’s about the person you choose Simone B’s husband’s interview answers made it painfully clear that if you are a high achieving woman and you

Marry someone who does not Adore You worship the ground you walk on and is not ready to just shout your accomplishments from the rooftop at all times you are are in for a lifetime of jealousy and resentment this is especially true for women in medicine because we are a rocket ship launching

Towards the stratosphere if your man is insecure about your accomplishments as a medical student or a resident imagine how he’s going to be when you are the attending when you’re the one speaking at conferences when you’re the one making $400,000 a year while we’re on

That subject by the way I don’t care how much you love him get a prenup this marriage works because I married the most patient understanding supportive person I have ever met in my entire life I come home exhausted emotionally physically mentally on my 80th hour of

Work that week and I know he’s going to be there for me he is the first person I tell when I publish a paper he’s the first person I tell when I lose a patient that’s why the marriage works if he is not rooting for you he is against

You facts double facts womenin law I married a resentful man I didn’t have a prenup it was brutal what’s that what’ you say get a prenup as a woman in finance heavy on the get a prup what’s that again get a prenup also as a stay-at home mom my husband is extremely

Proud of me he tells everyone about me raising our girls couponing in my Greenhouse this it feels so good to be seen and celebrated no matter if you get an outside wage for all the labor that you perform if it matters to you and you find it important it should also matter

To him and it should also be important to him okay so I really like this comment because it shows that it doesn’t matter what it is that you do but if you do it with passion you spend your time on it it is important to you your partner will appreciate it it doesn’t

Matter if you’re being a stay home mom you’re an artist you’re a lawyer you’re a doctor you’re an athlete you’re a gymnast whatever whatever it is that is important to you it is important to him as well and he gases you up about it and

He tells everyone how lucky he is to be with you how proud he is of you that’s the Crux of the matter okay I’ve made at least three to five times what my husband makes for the last 20 years he’s so proud of my accomplishments we’ll be

Together 40 years next year that is precious I love that I’m also a doctor and my husband is a well-known Australian comic and he Praises me to everyone there’s no room for deep resentment in marriage if you learn one thing from this class let it be these

Three things number one never shoot your shot with a man and make him feel like the prize number two date only men for whom you are their type you need to be your type’s type number three avoid men who humble you and I think that’s it

That’s all I have for you today I just wanted to let you know that you have so much inherent worth and value in a world that is hellbent on devaluing you now get that bad Bestie